I need your advice in a crisis. Will you help me?

1, my brother had project date a last warning on his/its degree, but he/it wastes much duration with his/its friend, and I am worried for him/it.
2, we move to USA and with totally even for card have any money. My dear uncle gives us vorläufige housing, but his/its 2 dogs are uncanny.
3, before driving to U.S., in 2 months, will spend 1 months with my in-lawed relatives, on which I become really not healthy, we in Germany because my sister after law is such a tyrant.
4, the a good matter is, I have philosophy stipend, that begins January in genetics, a doctor of this but I got my M.Sc 7, and I am exact from appointment with my course, therefore I struggle to develop before my course, begins.
5, my husband was in the habit of being abusive, was not for the last month, however, and I plan, as it left him/it, if I am clarified financially in U.S., so I become troubled and am emphasized on the future and if I can lead this separation.
6, I have a baby of 1.5 years old, and I struggle to be a good mother to her. But I want aufhören, to nurse, in order to start, to use food pills, to lose about any weight, but I place auf\'t to find seems, this will race to food!

Thinks I, that my main problem is financial worries, want to borrow any money from a family member in Germany, that is, my husband, why we first go there, but it didn\'t guarantee, I am worried this something if he/it doesn\'t lend us any money!

I was an intelligent, glad girl, I don\'t know as I finished this so miserably being and a loser after the marriage with no will power. I weiß in the future, everything will be O.K., but the gift kills me.

Can you give me, any advice fells?

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My uncle is the same city as my future university in USA

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Wisely I pass out money financially never and only save. I am für financial management very well, but my husband wastes the whole money, he/it was plundered recently and looks for another work the 1 months long, that is left. No matter, like hard I me während the last 3 years troubled, I couldn\'t changes him/it, he/it got into .20,000 debts for my name, and we be go behind all bills, so many debt collection agencies and his/its salary of all, he/it passed out everything. I couldn\'t works according to my baby.

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from Ben C

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Hello Sarah, I hope that you feel O.K.. Before you take, none either discuss from anybody on here, or from a professional councilor müssen you capable, to help itself/themselves, is. You/they seem with all your PH-WERT-D similarly a light Mädchen\'s and stuff and trusts me is more, as many people has, so that you should worry not too much about your career for itself.

My single worry for you is the fight, that you will have saving money for a better future for you and your baby, while you have an abusive husband, that goes out and spends your whole, badly deserved money and places you in it,... \'s the debts.

So that I guess you, do both apply for American citizenship over there? Because, if you then get a proposition on Staatsangeh into any difficulties with the police, that you will be deported from the country,örigkeit and you leave, this hopefully a good way, to get rid of him/it, could be, while you build your life?

I don\'t condole and set him/it up for something, therefore you first should try other solutions like the refuge a wife. Please place auf\'t resigns on your dream and worries not too much about financial difficulty for itself, more heavily you will find saving, während he/it there, to leave behind as him/it without a penny to your name, is! Remember itself, the fr,you leave him/it üher, that earlier your new life beginnings, this should be an exciting adventure for you so that I hope that you get what you earn.

Luck!

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through hbeatit-Halt....

Chillout.....

Lead a blister bath.....

And tell the world, it can go and itself a hour or so long f*cked gets!!!

from UC BLUES, Hydra.. protects you O.K.
1 her/its/their brother, an adult is his/its problem.
2. You/they have a nice uncle, the answer is obvious, you go to the states without your husband
3. sort your university-testifies and asks you about a counsellor there.
4. find daf childcareür, if you are at university, and you will need for the work.
5. now, the time is not für food pills and hold, that nurse, baby will,
be fine.
6 report him/it for bringing cards in your name.
7.DIVORCE
bon-Reise

First, It is nice through casper, that you are procured about your brother, but you must concentrate on THEM! Hören you on, to be so strict with itself. , To go, through with yours "Plan". you make what you do, for müssen, in order to get from abusive husband away. Only, because he/it was, you don\'t think one month long well that he/it is no more abusive!! you is an intelligent lady, and you follow only at the moment along lives a hard way. Take it with a Time one day!! as soon as you come to the U.S., können you your new life begins! It becomes Groß is!! hangs you in there, and places to study you away. Cancel all your credit cards or everything, which your husband can use. As soon as you come to U.S., it becomes one from you lifted großes weight is. The best from Glück to you!!

through Brad H wow...

1. His/its problem, not yours. Everything, which you do, können, offer advice is. If he/it takes it,... groß!
2. Call the Universität an\'s financial auxiliary office and inquires as to it, as you could be capable to get help. Es\'s probably too spät for it although, if you come for the autumn semester. You/they könnten therefore itself, or your uncle\'s asking, to credit card turns, must.
3. Begrüßen you to the club.
4. Congrats! Get your old Lehrbücher out and reads you upward!
5. Consent, this is bad.... Sie\'wieder of transferring of him/it here to the U.S., and his/its visa becomes likely at your education, right, fortifies? If with it, as soon as you you from him/it, him/it, scheiden,muß \'ll go, and here you will plan the baby\'s keeping, huh? Nice. I don\'t have any advice... only brand certainly können you with night well sleeps.
6. Therefore you hold if you want to hold.

Be successful studied in your graduate. Doctor of the philosophy programs kis the demanding önnen from your time very much.